Before I share my key lessons on how to never let imposter syndrome hold you back again, let me normalize something for you: You’re not special—everybody has days where they struggle with whether they’re actually good enough, whether they’re an imposter, and whether or not they will be able to pull off their dreams.[/wr_vc_section_text]
So what do I do when I find myself questioning my skills?
- Accept that you’re likely not a good enough leader, artist, writer, entrepreneur, friend—or whatever it is that you’re struggling with—YET;
- Adopt that the belief that only one thing matters: you can GET good at anything. Repeat that in your head over, and over, and over;
- Obsess over the thought that you can get good by actually pouring yourself and all of your energy into acquiring that skill.
Trust me, not being good enough is not a death sentence; believing that it’s a permanent state of affairs is. That’s where people really get trapped and fall into a death spiral. They’re so devastated by the realization that they’re not good that they stop trying. But if you’re not trying and not even your ‘bad work’ is getting out there, you’re not getting any better—and that’s how you hold yourself back from achieving your dreams.
Seth Godin has an amazing reflection about this: “Everytime someone tells me they’re a bad writer, I ask them to show me their bad writing. The reality is, most people don’t have it”—they’re so convinced that they’re bad that they just give up and never get better.
Giving up, not being bad, is the ultimate dream killer.
Keep repeating to yourself that you can *get* good at anything, obsess over acquiring that skill relentlessly and I guarantee you won’t let the imposter voice in your head hold you back from executing on your dreams.
Until next time, my friends, be legendary,
– Tom Bilyeu[/wr_vc_section_text]