3. Embrace Change and Its Inevitability:
Willingness to change and fully embrace its inevitability as a major ingredient for personal growth and any legendary achievement is Important for developing a resilient mental strength.
JAMES GORDON said it best; “It’s not that some people have willpower and some don’t . . . It’s that some people are ready to change and others are not.”
Are you ready and willing to change to become all that you desire to be?
Its not that you don’t have what it takes in terms of capacity to become all you’re destined to be, the real question is are you ready to EMBRACE UNRESERVEDLY, with full & unwavering commitment, whatever it takes to become and achieve your legendary status in your own circle of influence?
Do you worry any changes you undertake ain’t gonna last?
Do you make excuse for why you don’t think changing will work?
Do you hesitate to do anything new because of the commitment it will require to execute?
When we avoid change, we get stuck in a rut because nothing will change or improve until a change is made. We won’t learn new things and our overall lives will not get any better. People around you that embrace changes will eventually outgrow you and it leads to breakdown in relationships and life.
Start behaving like the person you want to become. We call this Modelling in NLP and Behavioral Psychology.
Model or pattern your life in line with the person you want to become and you’ll see yourself becoming that.
He that will make friends must behave friendly and he that want to be rich must start making decisions like rich people do.
Focus on one small change at a time with clear action steps will help you change faster and smoother than taking a whole lot at once and getting overwhelmed along the way.
4. Focus On Things You Can Control:
I believe the antidote to some form of anxiety, depression (not medical, kindly seek professional help) and less stress is to cede the habit of trying to control almost everything around you.
Ms. Maya Angelou said “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
Do you invest much of your energy wishing and thinking others should change?
Do you think you can single-handedly fix everything whenever you’re face with a challenging situation?
Do you struggle to just let things slide?
You can’t just let your kids be naughty for a while or allow your spouse some degree of mistakes without seeking to control and change the narratives?
Do you blame yourself incessantly whenever you fail at something?
Do you find it hard to forgive yourself for any mistakes you’re caught in?
Whats your level of trust in people generally?
Do you think people who don’t reach their goals are completely responsible for their situation?
Are you guilty of some or all of the above scenarios? If yes, then you need to learn how to focus on things you can control.
I believe When you learn to let go of the details you can’t control, the amount of time and energy you’ll be able to devote to the things you can control will give you the ability to accomplish incredible achievements.
Anytime that you notice you have a lot of worry and stress about a situation, do what’s in your personal power to manage your reaction and change or influence the outcome.
But recognize that you can’t control other people, and you can’t ever have complete control over the end result either.
YOU CAN INFLUENCE PEOPLE WITHOUT TRYING TO CONTROL THEM.
Listen more than you speak, assert more than you criticize, point out more positives than flaws and you’ll influence people without trying to control them and by that you’ll have more peace of mind, happy relationships and less or no stress or anxiety.